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Three Times Seven

Today is a Product.

Seven Healthy foods that  we actually are taking for granted. Seven o'clock driving lesson for an hour. Seven minute sit-ups.

Add them together gives me a date of a healthier me.

Below, are two of the 7 foods that we should be eating but we aren't  that will drive you nuts.

" Sardines are one of the best sources of heart-healthy, mood-boosting omega-3 fats, and they're packed with vitamin D. And because sardines are small and low on the food chain, they don't harbor lots of toxins as bigger fish can."

"On top of delivering a raft of cancer-fighting antioxidants, kale is one of the vegetable world's top sources of vitamin A, which promotes eye and skin health and may help strengthen the immune system. It's a good source of heart-healthy fiber and a one-cup serving has almost as much vitamin C as an orange."

My 7-minute sit up gave me enough source of serotonin for today. Aside from the freer oxygen circulation, it gave my tummy a little muscle to stomach today's sh*t: That one-hour of belly crunching driving lesson shot.

My intestine-like itinerary that honed my right and left control accelerated like a passing gas, it made me look back.

I am enjoying the by-product: this blog.

Random Act of Kindness: Good Morning

"Saying hello to someone, even if you don't know them, is a common courtesy. It means you are acknowledging their presence; you are saying that they are a person, too, and that they are important enough for you to say hello to.

Often we are tempted to keep our heads down and focus on our phones, blackberries, or i-pods. We would rather talk to people we know, miles away, than say hello to the person who is physically present with us. It is time to change that.

Say hello to the person next to you in the elevator, or on the train or bus.

Say good morning to people as you walk by their offices on your way to work, even if they aren't your favorite co-workers.

Benefits:
By saying hello, you are letting that person know that you noticed them, and that they matter. What a compliment!

Step It Up:
Don't stop at "Good Morning." Start a conversation with the other person, ask them how their day is going, or what their weekend plans are. Who knows, this person might just become someone special in your life, all because you took it upon yourself to say hello one morning.

Keep It Simple:
If you are shy by nature, you can simply say hello to the people you pass walking on the street. Just make eye contact and smile or nod. That is enough to make someone's day!

So, what’s your story?

I have my fair share of dealing with difficult people. Those I cannot fathom the intentions. Gossiping behind the person’s back and befriending the same person when face to face turns my alarm on.

The difficulty is defined out of my low tolerance on lies.

In my attempt to hone my tolerance skill on what I perceived as difficult people, I discovered something enlightening about it.

Since I don’t want to shadow your view of my enlightenment, please read on….

You May Be Aiding “Difficult” People to Be Difficult.


No relationship is exclusively one-way. When any two people interact, the influences flow in both directions.


So if there’s someone at work (at home or at play) who consistently irritates you, peeves you, and just generally gets under your skin, know this: you are almost certainly part of your problem.


Google “working with difficult people”, and you’ll get about 16,800 hits; “difficult people at work”, 10, 700; and just “difficult people”, a whopping 1,730,000 hits!


There’s no question that in most every organization (home and playground), we come face to face with folks who push our buttons, antagonize, frustrate, or otherwise annoy us, and behave in ways that make us want to scream. They’re commonly referred to as “difficult people”. Some we label simply “irritating”; some we label “rude” and some we label “impossible to work or be with”.


In my experience, however, the question is not so much what makes them “difficult”, but what we tell ourselves about them that makes them difficult – that is, underlying, supporting and triggering our reactivity and characterizations are the stories we tell ourselves about such folks. “S/he is (fill in the blank with your negative judgment, criticism, or descriptor)” that categorizes them as ‘difficult’.


When we drill down to the “truth” of the difficulty matter, experience suggests that it’s not so much that another’s behavior is all that egregious, outlandish, off the charts or aberrant; the “truth” of the difficulty matter is that often the “difficulty” is not so much the other individual as it is the stories we tell ourselves about that person. What often occurs is that we have created a “story” about that person, a story we take as real, a story we assume is true.
So, when we feel the urge to label another as “difficult”, a first step is to check out the reality of the story, the facts. How?

HERE ARE THREE SELF-REFLECTIVE QUESTIONS TO ASK:

1. What is that person doing, or how are they being, that is problematical for me?

In other words, ask yourself what the observable and measurable behaviors are that point to “difficulty”. Often, when caught up in reactivity, or flooded by emotions, we lose sight of the observable facts and simply respond with a knee-jerk judgment along the lines as: “Well, it’s nothing specific; he’s just being an “a–hole”. Because we are so attached to our story, we often fail to grasp the details that indicate the person is, in fact, difficult. So, ask yourself, “If someone gave me the same feedback I am directing to another person, would I know exactly how to do, or be, differently?” If not, you’re telling yourself a story and you’ll need to be clear on the facts.

2. Do you allow your story to cloud your view of that person?

When we create stories, we create a way we choose to view that person. For example, if I choose to believe another is lazy, then I turn the radio dial in my head to the station that features only “laziness” tunes and, as such, I’m always on the lookout for, and listening for, ways that person is behaving that I can haracterize as lazy, in order to prove the truth of my story.


If I choose to believe my boss is friendlier with a colleague and is ignoring, or rejecting, me and my work, then I turn the radio dial to pick up “rejection” tunes and look for, and listen for, incidents which allow me to say, “See, there she goes again; she likes that other person and is not concerned with me or my work.”


We create distortions that support us to prove we are “right”; that our story is true. We look to archive lots of evidence to prove our story. We don’t stand back and ask ourselves:


** “Is this the whole story?”
** “Is my story, really, really the truth?”
** “Is it possible I am distorting things just a bit?”


In fact:


** “Is this person perhaps, just perhaps, not the ogre I make him or her out to be?”
** “Could I be mistaken?”

3. Do you behave a certain way toward that person based on your story?

The bottom line is that our stories influence our behavior (at work, at home and at play). Our stories (and their attendant beliefs, thoughts, assumptions, preconceptions, misperceptions,etc.) trigger our emotions and feelings and it is our emotions and feelings that drive our behavior (often unconsciously) towards the other.


So, it’s important to take steps to become “conscious” of our stories. Two questions that can help in this vein are:


** “How do I behave toward another based on my story?” And,
** “Am I building a case against another, or attempting to solidify a case against another, based on my story?


A next step is to become curious as to whether, in fact, I am perpetuating another’s behavior as a result of my story. Am I contributing to that other person’s being “difficult” through my story and reactivity?


Yes, there are “difficult” people in the world. The question is whether some of these folks are really “difficult” in and of themselves or whether I am a major contributing factor to their being “difficult” through my story, and, more sincerely, honestly, and self-responsibly, how do I know the difference.


Finally, I invite you to reflect on the following thoughts that might inform your inquiry into “difficult” people and your stories about them Everyone is in “chapter three” of their life and often we base our criticisms and judgments of another on the assumption we know what went on in “chapter one” and “chapter two”. Truth is, we don’t know.


Ask yourself: “Why would a rational, decent, fair-minded and well-meaning individual behave like a jerk” (Or fill in the blank with another “difficult” descriptor you use.) And then perhaps compassionately give them the benefit of the doubt before you make up your story or justify your story as “the truth”.


No one (read: NO ONE) ever gets up in the morning and says, “I’m going to be a jerk today.”

Mass Abortion Is a Solution To Nothing

“Mass abortion is a solution to nothing. The country is obviously overpopulated and is approaching a critical point beyond which the nation will collapse in civil strife because too many million people will be hungry, malnourished, undereducated and with very little hope for a decent future for themselves and their children. A lesson from history is when any nation reaches that point, civil order fails completely and lawlessness, vigilantism, private armies and civil war is the natural consequence. This isn’t even an argument. It is a well-understood “cause and effect” situation no different from a natural law that says “for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction”.

There isn’t an alternative to getting population growth reduced and under some semblance of rational control as it is in the developed world. Mass abortion is not a solution. The solution is family planning and all the tools that are inherent in the concept of family planning including the most important of all the empowering women to make the decisions for themselves. They should be as free as any woman from the west to choose from the entire range of decisions including the pill, IUD, RU-486 morning-after-pill and abortion via medications, aspiration or surgery.


A sixth child in an already impoverished family is devastating to the mother and to her other 5 children.


- That sixth child IS NOT DEVASTATING TO THE CHURCH TO ITS BISHOPES AND PRIESTS.
- In fact the church, its bishops and its priests are so far out of the loop as to the reality of that woman’s life that they insist THAT SIXTH CHILD IS A BLESSING.
- That sixth child IS NOT DEVASTATING TO THE GOVERNMENT AND ITS SUPER WEALTHY SENATORS AND CONGRESSMEN.
- Many of them have convinced themselves that the church is correct that THE SIXTH CHILD SO DEVASTATING TO ITS MOTHER AND SIBLINGS, IS A BLESSING.


The Philippine church and its minions in government and in business and industry are in a dream world pretending that the terrible suffering by the overpopulated and impoverished masses of the poor that they have created by their policies, aren’t real suffering but are really blessings instead.


These go beyond being just differences of opinion or even lies on their part. These are outright demonically evil deeds perpetrated by the Philippine Church on the weakest of the weak.“ --Danding

Every woman’s dilemma

Although breast cancer deaths have decreased because of earlier detection and better treatment, the fact that 66% of cancer patients experienced painless breast mass bulks the threatening explosion.

Breast cancer can begin in the lining of the ducts and is called ductal carcinoma. Another type is lobular carcinoma, the type that arises in the lobules. It is a malignant tumor that can be spread through either the lymphatic system or invades other organs (metastasis). Its existence and spread is hampered by medical advancements. The use of folate, a vitamin found in both vegetables and meat, is said to reduce breast cancer risk particularly among women with greater alcohol consumption. Studies indicate dietary fiber, Vitamin A and C and beta carotene are deterrence to the disease.

New ways to fight the disease

One of the latest breakthroughs in the fight against breast cancer is the Peregrine system, created by a group of scientists at Lawrence Livermore Laboratories in California. It refines the treatment of cancer with radiation therapy. Radiation treatment uses gamma and X-rays to zoom in on and kill cancer cells, preventing their reproduction. The system tells physicians the radiation doses to be absorbed by the patient's body and determine where to aim the radiation beams, how many beams to use, and how to shape them.

Another new technique being administered is immunohistochemistry, which detects the extent of spreading of breast cancer by analyzing the disease’s proteins. The process includes antibodies that are placed on a patient's lymph node tissue.

These breakthroughs can combat the side effects of surgery-- imbalance caused by discomfort in woman’s neck and back, loss of strength in the arm and shoulder, numbness and tingling in the chest, underarm and hand due to injuries, or of radiation therapy- fatigue and more sensitivity of breast skin, or of chemotherapy—vulnerability to infection , loss of hair and appetite, nausea, vomiting, diarrhea and infertility.

Prevention to no pain?

Early breast cancer causes no pain. Warm, swollen, red and scaly breast skin, areola or nipple and ridges or pitting of the breast like the skin of an orange flaunt cancer symptoms. Lumps or nipple discharge are also evident and significant determinants.

Accumulated consequences of unhealthy lifestyles, environmental factors, or long-term use of hormones such as synthetic forms of estrogen for hormone replacement therapy (HRT) or oral contraception might develop into a fatal disease. Further, genetic predisposition especially the presence of oncogenes that can trigger normal cells to mutate into cancer cells, breast biopsy that revealed hyperplasia, and hereditary breast, colon, uterine and ovarian cancers are medical contributions to cancer existence.

Women with early menstruation before age 12, first pregnancy and birth at age 30 have higher risk than average. Also, menopausal women and those who have never given birth are vulnerable.

If you have more than 35% of daily calories from fat, moderate to heavy drinking, lack of daily exercise, weight of 40% or more over the ideal, are exposed to multiple x-ray or radiation treatment, to pesticides, to pollutants including cigarettes smoke, then you are entitled to undergo medical examinations.

Age matters

Women aged 30 to 80 comprised the 99% of the breast cancer victims. Risks increase with age and 80% of patients occur to women 50 and up. There’s 1 in 5,900 women aged 30. At 40, 1 out of 1,200 has cancer.

National Cancer Institute recommends that women in 40"s and older have mammograms on regular basis every 1 to 2 years to detect calcium deposits, a cluster of very tiny speck of calcium maybe a sign of cancer. Palpation or carefully feeling the lump and tissue performed by doctor and ultrasonography, which shows whether a lump is solid or water-filled using high frequency sound waves can also be performed both to aged or young concerns.

Breast Self Examination develops cancer cognizance for those who are not yet victims of the disease. The BSE allows women to find out if they are possible candidates for breast cancer. Here are some tips to keep in mind when doing monthly BSE:

* Three in four breast cancers appear in the upper outer region of the breast, in the area under the armpit, or behind the nipple. So examine these areas extra carefully.

* If your breasts are normally lumpy, make a note of how many individual lumps you find and their locations. Check for changes or size increases each month.

* After examining your breasts by feel, be sure to do a visual check as well. Stand in front of a mirror and look for changes in shape or symmetry of your breasts, any dimpling or dents, or a nipple that draws inward or points in a new direction.

· See your doctor to evaluate any changes or new lumps that you find during BSE.

Remember that the majority of breast lumps turn out to be noncancerous.

You may JOIN the cause here

Reposted from DoctorGeorge.com

Remember to Forget

Forgetting is an easy way out for two reasons. First, it's safer than holding a grudge on a person who dared to say how hypocrisy stinks from the sweet tooth. Fact like stabbing your back with tender loving care is pretty much disturbing. Hatred seems to be relevant specially to those with so much love in their hearts. Well, for god so loved the world that he even gave his only son to save it is the same god who created the eternal fire and damnation.


Second, it's better than remembering that despite the self-proclaimed importance, in the end, it is still good. Unfortunately, good for nothing. Not knowing everything does not mean one does not know something. Because that's the point of remembering.

It seems counter-intuitive, but being good at “forgetting” is what allows some people to have a great memory. During the study, the more efficient participants were at forgetting irrelevant data, the more accurate their memory became in terms of energy expended.


The study utilized a word-memorization test to demonstrate that the brain chooses to remember memories it thinks are most relevant, while it actively suppresses similar, but less used information. This process seems to lighten the cognitive load and helps prevent confusion.


"Whenever you’re engaging in remembering, the brain adapts. It’s constantly re-weighting memories," says team-member Brice Kuhl, "In this simple test, we see it reverse memory to weaken competing memories. This is something that probably happens a lot in the real world."


In essence, the brain could not work quickly and efficiently if it did not have the capacity to forget what it determines as irrelevant. The human brain doesn’t like to be cluttered with what it deems unnecessary information. That may be why many of us can’t remember most of what we learned in college algebra.,

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Greener Pasture

Yahoo mail and Gmail has a new banner as I saw it yesterday. They are no longer seeking for greener pasture. They are green. I like it because it reminds me to be cognizant of the environment and pay attention to it. To see something bigger than ourselves and do something about it. This way, our myopic view of the pettyness of human inadequacy and the imperfection of others somehow be diverted into something productive.


April is autism awareness month (It's enticing to think of a connection to someone I know but I'd rather not to). It is an abnormality that is prevalent nowadays. It affects not only the poor and the common but also the rich and the famous. There are theories that environment plays a significant contribution to the mutation of the child's genetic composition and development. Climate change, industrial by-products, technological side effects contribute to the environment's level of radioactivity and deterioration that affects the biological composition of every one. X-men and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles are fictional characters delving with mutation. It's a sad thing that children victimized by this genetic maladaptation will no longer enjoy these fictions. Unless they would like to be a part of this fictional world and be, or better yet, instead of being subjected to the judgements of narrow minded, cold blooded-perfectionist lost in self admiration.


Where do I go from here? What can I do to protect the environment?
1. I pledge to use vacuum cleaner once a month. I'm hitting two birds in one stone: Lessen, even in a minimum, the amount of CFC contributed to the green house effect and exercise by sweeping the floor.
2. Recycle and reuse. I used the empty bottle of mineral water and put back into the box to produce a dresser and table.
3. Use my time in researching (thanks internet) to think of ways and exercise my creativity.
4. Create a forum and awareness to let others know that there are more noble activities than high-lighting the inadequacy of others.